Hey folks, and welcome to this episode of The Art of EFT. As some of you guys probably know, I host a support call each month for those people who have done EFT Practitioner training with me. So, during last month’s support call, I asked two of the practitioners to do a demonstration, where one became the client and the other, the practitioner. The practitioner conducted a 20-minute session with the client, and we as a group then gave some gentle, constructive feedback.
Asking for Progress Too Early On
In short, the practitioner was very good, but one of the main points to work that came up, was allowing the client space whilst they were tapping. Certainly, as a practitioner myself, I have had to learn to become comfortable with space and silence as the client works through their stuff. In my early days as an EFT practitioner, I used to find myself asking the client for a progress update early on in their tapping session, but experience quickly taught me that I needed to give the client space, and I needed to become comfortable with the silence that was sometimes between us.
But Wait, Why Are We Tapping in Silence?
Now, I just want to digress here for a moment. Some of you may be wondering why there would be complete silence when we’re tapping, because the way that many of us may have been trained, is to repeat the parts of the set-up statement as we tap with the client, which helps the client to remain tuned in. However, when I started practicing EFT on myself, as well as working with a practitioner, I found that I personally didn’t like repeating the phrases. Instead, I preferred to focus on the feeling within. I found that speaking whilst tapping took me away from what I was experiencing, i.e., it tuned me out. Indeed, over the years, I have found that there are others like myself, who prefer to tap silently, and hence I invite people to choose whether or not they would like to use phrases whilst tapping.
If This Sounds Like You…
Whether our clients choose to tap in silence or not, we need to allow them some undisturbed space so that the process can unfold. As a general rule, I tend to check in with the clients every one or two rounds. I do, however, pre-frame this, by asking the client before they start tapping to share any changes that they may be experiencing as they tap. If this is something that you feel that you also need to work on, here are some ideas:
1. Give your client a choice of whether they would like to repeat the phrases or tap in silence. This will ensure that you’re working in a way in which the client is comfortable.
2. Pre-frame before you start tapping: Ask the client to let you know if they experience the energy moving or changing. If you’re using the basic EFT protocol, you may want to ask them to let you know if a memory comes up, for which you can then use the movie technique.
3. Observe your clients carefully: Look out for changes in their facial expressions, or the sound of their voice. If I think that the client may be experiencing a change in energy, I will gently ask them what they’re feeling, or whether there has been a change.
4. Although you’re observing your client carefully, try and refrain from talking too much through their tapping process -unless you’re checking-in with them, or unless they are describing their experience. Allow them the space to be with and experience the process. Create some space so that the energy can begin to shift. If you find this difficult or uncomfortable to do, reflect upon it afterwards, and explore why this may be the case. How do you feel when you have to give your clients some space? Does the silence make you feel uncomfortable, if so, why?
So, I hope you’ve found this episode useful. I’d love to know your about your thoughts and experiences about this topic, so feel free to leave a comment:)
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